Today's Tip for Families

03-23-2025

Help Your Child Solve Problems

Problem-solving is a skill—and it's one that elementary schoolers can learn. But often, children often aren't aware of their ability to think through decisions.

When your elementary schooler comes to you with a problem:

Stay calm. You can't help if you're overwhelmed with emotion. Take a deep breath, or let your child know you need some time to think. Wait until you can talk with a neutral, open attitude.
Be sure your child is ready to talk. If your student is too upset to talk about the problem, wait. Make it clear that you're ready to listen when your child is ready to talk. It may take a few minutes ... or it could take a few days.
Match your child's posture. If your student is sitting, sit down alongside. If your child is standing, stand up, too.
Encourage your child to describe the problem and possible solutions. You may be surprised at how little you have to say.
Restate what you hear, using at least some of your child's words. But don't repeat word for word.
Be patient through the silences. Problem-solving takes time. Children need more time than adults to sort through their thoughts.
Help your child discover the solution, rather than just supplying it. You might have to do some gentle prompting, but the decision should come from your child. "What about a schedule change so you can work on math when you are less tired?" is better than "You should study right after school."

When children identify a solution themselves, they are more willing to act on it. And they are more confident in their ability to solve the next problem they face.

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Warren Independent School District